I fell in love with a girl at R.C. in 2007. Her personality drove me mad, however, I wasn't able to let her know because she was an extraordinary person & her response was not likely to be normal. Moreover, I also wanted to check myself if I could live without this hard-to-get-girl, I, after sometime realized that I couldn’t. She studied different subjects and we had no class together, so, I was not able to try any of my tricks. But in 2009, my mental condition started to get affected by this craziness and I decided to talk to this girl about it. We had some discussions. She told me that she didn't want to get involved in these silly things and defined love as bullshit. Some months later she also told me that I wasn't her ‘type’ and should seek another nice girl. She told me that if I was interested in her it was my problem and that there was to be no 'public display' of it from me. And I never did it. She did used to complain sometimes that her not-so-close friends had started asking her if something was going on? I really worshiped her so I used to try and get as much information about her as I could (the physical properties, as I already knew the chemical ones). I used to try and impress her by telling her how much I knew about her, but that used to drive her a bit mad. In June this year, as I continued to show as much determination in being mad about her even after graduating, she came up with an offer. She offered me to be her 'friend of sorts' if I agreed to stop 'the nonsense'. I told her that I would always love her and only her, but I could stop mentioning it when I talk to her. Now we don't meet but stay in-touch with each other on FB. So I'm waiting for a miracle. I also have made a fan group for her on FB and she has joined it. Now such things confuse me. Can it happen?
Dear confused,
This is perhaps the most common problem of all, and I am afraid you approached the girl in a wrong manner to begin with. You mentioned that the girl had a ‘crazy’ personality. You should have elaborated in what way? By the looks of it, she seems like the dorky/held-back type. I think you have done some damage on your own by finding out information about her, and instead of using it to your advantage, annoyed her by telling that you’re keeping tabs on her! In such situations the best thing to do is to keep it low and play cool . The act of desperation should be the last resort to venture, but I thing you took that trip way too early in the journey. However, you case is not completely hopeless. First things, first, please delete that fan group! She is to be flattered anymore! You can pass occasional complimentary remarks that’s all! Keep talking to her on friendly terms. Keep her posted on your ‘other affairs‘, tell her that you are thankful she bore the whole affair with a nice demeanor. Tip; nothing makes a girl jealous more than seeing a friend/the-could-have-been-lover with another girl. Tell her that you have met this amazing girl, who actually reminds you of her sometimes, expect for she way too beautiful than her. Make her feel that she has missed the train she could have had earlier, had she acted more prudently. That will bring her to her right mind. Don’t play your cards immediately. I am sure you have much more information that you can use. This formula usually works in a situation like this. Hope it helps.
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